1594. Building Stronger Connections: 30 Tips for Effective Communication

To start, my relationship with my wife is the most special to me. It delivers such a positive impact on my life spiritually, mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially, and so much more…

It didn’t come without effort though either, the beginning of our relationship was rocky, uncomfortable we were just two kids trying to figure life out together

but we made it through, for the better.

Here’s the thing though, all relationships can have a positive impact on us.

• Lovers
• Family
• Friends
• Strangers
• Animals

and that’s exactly what I’m saying, even the shitty ones have a positive impact

Because they teach us what the positive ones are and makes it that much more special.

It’s not a surprise that relationships take effort, real relationships anyway.

and lots of it.

Uncomfortable conversations are challenging.

Communicating more than necessary is usually a key to success.

Handling situations, actions, and responses is crucial.

Setting aside ego is important.

Hearing the other person out is a must

being there to support one another, even if it’s inconvenient…

and this is all way easier said then done, especially in the moment.

30 ways to better communicate and handle different relationships.

Making Your Home Life Happier

1. Don’t nag (fault finding or continuous urging).
2. Don’t assume, ask questions 
3. Spend quality time 
4. Don’t try to make your partner over.
5. Give honest appreciation.
6. Pay little attentions (do the small things with no expectation or attention drawn to it).
7. Be courteous (polite, respectful, considerate in manner).

Fundamental Techniques in Handling People

1. Don’t criticize, condemn, or complain. (or gossip)
   1. Criticize: indicate faults in a disapproving way
   2. Condemn: express complete disapproval of, typically publicly
   3. Complain: express dissatisfaction or annoyance about something
   4. Gossip: casual conversation on reports about other people that are not confirmed as being true 
2. Give honest and sincere appreciation.
3. Arouse in the other person an eager want.
4. Never show others that you are not interested in what they have to say.
5. No messing! 
6. No arguing – use agreement 

Make People Like You

1. Don’t take things personal – it never is. 
2. Become genuinely interested in other people.
3. Smile.
4. Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and most important sound in any language.
5. Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.
6. Talk in terms of the other person’s interest.
7. Make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely.

Win People to Your Way of Thinking

1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.
2. Show respect for the other person’s opinions. Never say “You’re Wrong.”
3. If you’re wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically (ability to understand and share the feelings of another).
4. Begin in a friendly way.
5. Start with questions to which the other person will answer yes.
6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.
7. Let the other person feel the idea is his or hers.
8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.
9. Be sympathetic (understanding between people, common feelings) with the other person’s ideas and desires.
10. Appeal to the nobler (moral) motives.
11. Dramatize (exaggerate the seriousness or importance) your ideas.
12. Throw down a challenge.

How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment

1. Begin with praise and honest appreciation.
2. Call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly.
3. Talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person.
4. Ask questions instead of giving direct orders.
5. Let the other person save face (avoid humiliation).
6. Praise every improvement.
7. Give the other person a fine reputation to live up to.
8. Use encouragement. Make the fault seem easy to correct.
9. Make the other person happy about doing what you suggest.