We’ve all heard the principle seek first to understand then to be understood
Stephen Covey talked about that in his 7 habits book (Specifically habit 5)
Logically it seems easy at first glance, but how many of us really do it?
If someone does something we don’t like or crosses our line, we immediately get emotional
Saying something along the lines of how could they or you can’t be that naive…
Because we’re looking at it from our point of view vs their point of view…
We’re not seeking first to understand.
Because that would have a different outcome…
With us saying something along the lines of I’m curious, why do you keep doing that
Since we’re responsible people, if we can control our emotional urges, then we’ll experience radically different outcomes
No assumptions, just curiosity
No freak outs, just questions
Less stress, more peace
Let’s really try to seek to understand others today, and do it genuinely.
Joe DiAndrea 