1448. Skills over goals

How do most people set goals?

Lose 20 pounds

Write a book

Make $80,000

Spend more time with my kids

Goals within themselves are good

It gives us a point B to get too.

But goals within themselves are empty, it’s the last thing we “get”

Lose 20 pounds is the result of a long slew of actions, not an overnight thing

The same with writing a book or making $80,000, and spending more time with your kids isn’t a one time thing

But a slew of actions over time

Goals are the “have”

What do I want to have?

But before that, we need to do something

And the best way to do something is to realize who do we have to be?

Someone who is healthy, works out, eats clean, and looks good naked

Someone who is a writer, writes everyday, eventually writes a book

It’s about tying in the action with or identity

Be, do, have

Who do we have to be, in order to do what we need to do, and eventually have what we want to have?

It’s not what do I want?

That’s why New Year’s resolutions only last a few weeks. These people don’t change who they are; they give a half assed effort and changing their actions.

Developing no skills, and hoping.

Hope is a terrible plan